Tuesday, February 16, 2010

Love is not selfish

This is something I've wanted to post for a few days, but I keep waiting for the right words and I'm not sure they're coming. Last week, I was talking to someone about adoption and how hard the wait can seem. In a half-serious, half-joking way, she said, "But you already got one."

I am sad that anyone would think we're selfish because we "already got one" but would like a second child. I don't think it's selfish to share my love with another child. Would anyone ever walk up to a woman pregnant with her second or third child and say, "But you already got one."

I don't want to compete with a couple who are still waiting for the blessing of a child. I pray that everyone who enters the adoption process will be blessed with a situation that is a blessing for the birth parents and adoptive parents.

We pray for a special couple who can see how much love we can offer and would like their son or daughter to have a protective and loving big brother. We also pray that the relationship will feel as natural as the one we are blessed to have with Jack's birthmom.

1 Corinthians 13, 4 - 7, 13

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

Love never fails....And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.


Amy said...

I think about your wait for Maggie all the time. Do you have any idea of how long you will have to continue to wait? I remember watching you fill out your initial paperwork and it seems like it has been forever. I'm sorry that you have to wait. I hope you are blessed with many, many more children.

EE said...