Always the aunt, never the mother.
The road to a family has not been an easy one for my husband and me. I was born to have babies. I've had birthing hips since grade school. In fact, all I've ever wanted in life is to have a family. It seems ironic that the thing I want most in this life is so difficult to obtain.
Thank God there is the gift of adoption. My husband and I decided to adopt from China back in 2005. We look forward to bringing home our little girl in 2008.
In the meantime, there is the long wait. What started out as a 9 to 12 month wait has extended to 18 months and will probably reach 24 months before we are matched with our precious girl.
Our parish bulletin sometimes contains a "One Minute Meditation." One meditation titled "God gives you what you can handle" has become my motto through the adoption process. The following is adapted from 1 Corinthians 10:13:
No trial has come to you but what is human. God is faithful and will not let you be tried beyond your strength; but with the trial he will also provide a way out, so that you may be able to bear it.
Struggling to start a family has become the cross that my husband and I bear. But God helped us see how adoption could be a wonderful option, a blessed way to start a family. I can't wait to share that journey with you.